Its Been Over A Year

April 15th, 2015 was the last blog that I have written, until today. Wow - a lot has happened since then. 

Here is a quick run down:

Amber and I have navigated some of the toughest times in our marriage, but by the grace of God, we are stronger than ever.

We as a family have adjusted to our now 2 year old, Nellie - whom I have affectionately referred to as our very own al-Qaeda operative. She has been a terror and a dream boat. (That's my joke, don't get offended) Her big personality and demanding ways are going to serve her well if her mom and I can lead her well. I am confident we will. 

Carson is an unreal boy. That's all I know to say about him. Just an amazing, deep loving, sincere soul. He is about to start 2nd grade. 

We have moved to an amazing church in a more rural area and we have started pastoring a growing church that is close to 600 people. I am now teaching/preaching every week, in addition to leading a staff, developing leaders, and growing a church. Check out for more info. 

We have purchased a dream home with a beautiful creek in the back yard big enough to catch a few fish and enjoy some splashing around. 

All in all, things are headed in a wildly, wonderful direction. In just a few weeks, I will be launching monthly leadership podcast | Podcast will launch on August 12th.

I am writing again, and soon hope to begin compiling a new manuscript for a new book. I will be sending our a survey as I want you all to help select the title and subtitle. 

I sure hope you are all well, I will talk with you in a few days. 

Posted on July 12, 2016 .

What Paul McCartney & Kanye Taught Me About My Identity

Image Courtesy of Rolling Stone Magazine

Image Courtesy of Rolling Stone Magazine

I was blown away today at the recent comments on platforms such as Twitter concerning the new hit song, FourFive Seconds by Rihanna, Paul McCartney, and Kanye West. Read the two Tweets below. 

Image Courtesy of Daily Mail UK

Image Courtesy of Daily Mail UK

Why would this be so shocking? If you have a major identity issue, chances are, you would feel the need to correct those who are less than aware of who you are. Paul McCartney is an icon around the world, yet the people above where so happy for the "new comer" to get a chance in the world of West and Rihanna. 

I was simply watching McCartney to see if there would be a correction on his part. I didn't assume so, but who knows? There is still time.

But for now, there are 3 things that McCartney taught me about my own identity. Maybe we can all learn a lesson from him. 

  1. My identity cannot be tied to someone else's approval or knowledge of me. 
  2. My identity cannot be tied to what I do, but rather, who I am as an individual. 
  3. You cannot depend on others to give you what only God can, which is your real self. 

How have you struggled with identity? Do you depend on someone else to tell you who you are? Would you share this post with your Facebook & Twitter peeps? If so, click SHARE below.

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The Edge of the Woods

I speaking mainly to pastors and church leaders, however, I assume many will identify with the stuff below. 

2014 was, for the most part, the worst year of my life, save 1993. 

I'm not sure I can describe the guilt, pain, confusion, frustration, and the amount of cursing that took place this past year. Oh my. 

I know most of you have never cursed. Sorry. 

Have you ever expericed brokenness in such an extended period of time that it felt as though that would become your new norm? 

To say that I am out of the woods would be false. But at least I can see the edge of the woods. 

What has changed? 

A few things: 

  1. I got honest with myself. And I'm still uncovering the mess.
  2. Counseling. Yes, counseling. I know I'm supposed to have faith and the Lord heal it all. I guess my faith is just weak. But counseling sure has rescued what my weak faith could not.
  3. Community. I surrounded myself with people who cared more about who I am than what I can do for them. 

Pastor/leader... Please hear me: If you need it, go to counseling. Don't let brokenness be your new norm. 

Find better community. If you are around unhealthy people then you have to cut them lose. 

You matter. Your ministry matters. Your life matters. You owe your mental and interal health to yourself and to your family. 

Don't quit. You will come out of this. Just keep looking for the edge of the woods.

Posted on March 3, 2015 .