Today is Transparent Tuesday. So of course I am going to share my mess with you all. First a quote: "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second and third time, till at length it becomes habitual; he tells lies without attending to it, and truths without the world's believing him. This falsehood of the tongue leads to that of the heart, and in time depraves all its good dispositions." THOMAS JEFFERSON, letter to Peter Carr, Aug. 19, 1785
Here Are 3 Reasons I Have Lied:
- It was easier than telling the truth in that moment. This is a temporal fix. It always caught up with me.
- I would have lost something had I not told a lie. This is a selfish posture.
- I would have caused grief in another's heart by telling the truth. Hiding the truth from someone when you possess it is equal to lying.
None of these reasons will ever redeem lost integrity. Giving a reason does not hold the same power as redemption.